Happiness!!

Perfectionism is a slippery topic. When does a healthy desire to strive for excellence slip over into an unhealthy self-centeredness where no one else quite measures up? At what point does a highly organized person become controlling? When do high standards become unrealistic, so that life takes on a frantic, driven quality? How do we determine whether we value ourselves primarily for what we accomplish rather than for who we are? 

People who find themselves in the strangle-hold of unhealthy perfectionism didn’t intentionally adopt that as a goal for their lives. Rather, through the myriad influences of societal views of success, genetic tendencies, parental modeling, false values, and so much more, we find ourselves subtly shoved into a mold that is unrealistic, but which feels natural. It’s usually far easier for us to see the perfectionism in other people than in ourselves. So, we get impatient with them, and dismissive, or expect they will see their problem clearly the first time we point it out. 

Perhaps a place to begin is to recognize how easily our perspective can be unrealistic, even dishonorable.The perfection we should strive for is not found in appearance or performance. We should resist allowing ourselves to be sqeezed into the mindset of the world around us. If we are pursuing excellence out of fear of rejection, self-centerdness or pride, then we are not moving toward maturity and perfection. we can seek to be the best we can be, with all our intellectual and artistic abilities, but the motive is all-important.

"Happiness depends on ourselves." More than anybody else, Aristotle (Greek philosopher and polymath) enshrines happiness as a central purpose of human life and a goal in itself. That is, happiness depends on the cultivation of virtue, though his virtues are somewhat more individualistic than the essentially social virtues of the confucians. A method of achieving virtue, but for Buddha the Middle Path referred to a peaceful way of life which negotiated the extremes of harsh asceticism and sensual pleasure seeking. Was a minimal requirement for the meditative life and not the source of virtue in itself.

Dn't try to be like someone else, you are unique. Don't attend to everyone else's needs, your needs are just as important. Turn any failures into life experiences, learn from them.Allow successes to be the motivation for more success.

The function of man is to live a certain kind of life, and this activity implies a rational principle, and the function of a good man is the good and noble performance of these, and if any action is well performed it is performed in accord with the appropriate excellence: if this is the case, then happiness turns out to be an activity of the soul in accordance with virtue.

Enjoy your life - to be happy - it's all that matters.

Speaking my mind (Speak yours too..)

Every time I speak my mind

I'm lyrically critical

The pinnacle of being revolutionarily pivotal

Beyond anything ever studied thats metaphysical

But obviously terminologies that are statistical

Are manufactured to be unequivocally subliminal

So I riddle hypocritically

Habitually utilizing typical rituals

With false pretense in attempts to be spiritual

To individuals who believe in biblical miracles

Instead of themselves, because they're not thinking original

Cause your susceptible to becoming more than a spectacle

So I encrypted this into hip hop!!

Take the time to make some sense for what you wanna say

And cast your words away upon the waves

Sail them home with acquiesce on a ship of hope today

And as they land upon the shore

Tell them not to fear no more

I'm not saying right is wrong

It's up to us to make the best of all the things that come our way

Cos' everything that's been has past

The answers in the looking glass

There's four and twenty million doors

On life's endless corridor

So say it loud and sing it proud today.

Eat-Live-Love-Pray

"Follow your heart and your dreams will come true."

I guess when it comes down to it Being grown up isn't half as fun as growing up. These are the best days of our lives The only thing that matters is just following your heart And eventually you'll finally get it right.

I wish I was a little kid again when all I wanted for my birthday was cupcakes for my entire class & for everyone to sing happy birthday to me.. and money never mattered because when I was little..[ whatever i wanted i always got ]. Sometimes I wish I could go back to the days when I was six and my biggest problem was what kind of dress to put on my Barbie's.

As a child, I looked forward to my birthday for weeks preceding the actual big day. I would spend countless hours imagining what type of gift I might receive from my family and friends. I didn't always get everything I wanted, but inevitably, what I did receive was something I liked. I don't ever recall tearing through the wrapping paper and opening the box only to exclaim: "How could you! Give me another gift!" I knew that I could trust that whatever my parents had for me was a good gift. I was happy and satisfied.

However, when it comes to the gift or gifts God gives, we can trust He got it right the first time. He knows us better than any parent, spouse, child, or best friend as per we act. We'd be wise to prayerfully accept whatever special treasure He's bequeathed us.

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

The young faces in these pictures represent times when our biggest worries were Barbie and Ken's wedding, GI Joe's missing arm, contra, Mario and why we had to eat vegetables at dinner again. Wish we could go back to such carefree days(School days). But at the same, time moving on with our lives, making new memories, and gaining independence have become exciting realities that were once ideas that seemed so far away. Since sixth grade we have counted down the days until graduation. Now as the day approaches we are still anxious, but somewhat nervous. The faces in these pictures remind us of the people we once were and still are, the friends we have grown up with and also whom we will graduate with. Surviving past 5 years wasn't easy, but in that time had some of the best experiences. Those times are what made it worthwhile. and from now on I would be planning for my future.Complete new life with love n hope.

Have you ever heard a song from so long ago with so many memories tied to it that it made you cry? And didn't you wish that you could go back into time when everything seemed so much simpler and carefree? Those are songs that are the soundtrack of our lives... the ones that bring back childhood memories, best friends, first love, first heartbreak... the memories.

It's hard to accept, but you can't change the past. You can't go back and manipulate things to the way you wanted them to happen. Because life’s be meaningless and boring and just not worth living. But you can change the future and that's a beautiful thing about life. Yes, you will make mistakes. And yes, you will have bad days - but as long as you let the past go, you'll have such a gorgeous and bright future ahead of you. Knowing that things were meant to happen. Knowing that each day you will learn something so that you keep growing to be a better person by putting our best efforts and positive karma to love and to keep our loved ones happy.

Growing up sucks. Not all kisses are magic, and most boys do not live up to your expectations(lol), but there are those times when everything, I mean love, romance, relationships, it all falls together perfectly and it's incredible(I wish..). It's those moments, no matter how depressingly few and far between, that make growing up worth it.

When do you stop being a kid and start becoming an adult? Cause me, I don’t want that time to come, I wanna be young forever. I wanna be frightened of the dark; I wanna be scared of the bogey man. I’d rather be frightened of those, than fall in love and having my heart broken.

I’m not a little girl anymore and our dreams are jsssst one cloud away from where you are. No dream comes true until you wake up and go to work because a life without dreams is like a garden without flowers.

Good Luck!!

Loads of Love:):)

A new day!!!

You know what’s great about life?

Every single day we get a brand new beginning each and every day to do what we didn’t do the day before. Think about that for a moment. Life grants us a chance every day to create "a new beginning." What could be more powerful than to know that within our grasp, is the chance to choose to be who we want to be and achieve what we want to achieve each and every day, regardless of what we did or didn’t do the day before.Most of the times we try ,try n try and sometimes we think m i gonna get every smile after putting so much efforts but my dear thats called life,It's hard to accept but we have to with a big smile on our face.

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.

Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.

This is the beginning of a new day. God has given me this day to use as I will. I can waste it or use it for good, but what I do today is important, because I am exchanging a day of my life for it! When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever, leaving in its place something that I have traded for it. I want it to be gain, and not loss; good, and not evil; success, and not failure; in order that I shall not regret the price I have paid for it.

sup dont think too much,give your best. be happy!!

My gurllll!!!

Once upon a time a child was born.
She was born to live,to love,to trust,to have faith in people.

She loved animals. She loved nature.
Life was joy as the life of a child should be.

When I was just a little girl,I asked my mother

What will I be!

Will I be pretty n successful in achieving my dreams,

And she said to me

Mani!! Life is not in your hands,

whatever will be, will be

The future's not ours to see.

When she was a child

She was beautiful, bigg dreamy eyes, had the best sparkling smile,

loved everyone cos life is short to hate anyone.

She had the courage and the vision to see a positive life

but it wasn't like that.

Once upon a time a child grew up.

I fell in love.I asked my sweetheart what lies ahead

Will we have rainbows,day after day with a innocent smile on her face.

He said nothing. And then left.

The joy came back. And then it left.

Lost in an image, in a dream

But there's no one to wake her up

and the world is spinning cos he wasn't there with her.

she was left alone to fight.

And things changed . Life has changed.
The joy... where did it go?

Once upon a time a child became a woman.

And realized life is not like dreams, no matter how much you try
Choices were made. Life was lived.
Love and joy full of pain and tears.

Once upon a time is now today.

I'm stronger than yesterday.

More sensible after seeing the small glimpse,

Few right decisions and few wrong,

I need to get happy again,I need to find my smile again,

i need to get excited.

I had the wind knocked out of my sails.

Dreams are reality. Sorrows are real.
One thing for certain? Life is life.

Life is not always easy.Life is not always pretty.

But at the same time,life is just like that,

Life is full of laughter but more sorrows,

Life is full of forgiveness than number of mistakes

(occurs due to bad decisions,time,conditions and destiny)

Life is full of celebrations but more tears,

Life is full of history,full of dreams

full of past and tomorrows.

Hopefully I will be able to do what i want to do here.To live and to love.

If not, I guess I can always hit DELETE.

Keep smiling!!!!

Changes in my life....

Things mostly happen for the best.

However hard it seems to-day,

When some fond plan has gone astray

Or, what you've wished for most is lost

An' you sit countin' up the cost

With eyes half-blind by tears o'grief

While doubt is chokin' out belief,

You'll find when all is understood

That what seemed bad was really good.

Life can't be counted in a day.

The present rain that will not stop

Next autumn means a bumper crop.

We wonder why some things must be-

Care's purpose we can seldom see-

An' yet long afterwards we turn

To view the past, an' then we learn

That what once filled our minds with doubt

Was good for us as it worked out.

I've never know an hour of care

But that I've later come to see

That it has brought some joy to me.

Even the sorrows I have borne,

Leavin' me lonely an' forlorn

An' hurt an' bruised an' sick at heart,

An' though I could not understand

Why I should bow to Death's command,

That it was really better so.

Things mostly happen for the best.

So narrow is our vision here

That we are blinded by a tear

An' stunned by every hurt an' blow

Which comes to-day to strike us low.

An' yet some day we turn an' find

That what seemed cruel once was kind.

Most things, I hold, are wisely planned

If we could only understand.

Dont forgt to smile....

I'll Learned......

I've learned-that you cannot make someone love you.
All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.
I've learned-that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.
I've learned-that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
I've learned-that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
I've learned-that it's not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.
I've learned-that you should never ruin an apology with an excuse.
I've learned-that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you'd better know something.
I've learned-that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do.
I've learned-that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
I've learned-that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
I've learned-that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I've learned-that you can keep going long after you can't.
I've learned-that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
I've learned-that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I've learned-that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
I've learned-that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
I've learned-that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I've learned-that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
I've learned-that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.
I've learned-that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
I've learned-that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
I've learned-that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
I've learned-that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
I've learned-that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.
I've learned-that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological.
I've learned-that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you are to learn to forgive yourself.
I've learned-that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I've learned-that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
I've learned-that a rich person is not the one who has the most, but is one who needs the least.
I've learned-that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
I've learned-that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
I've learned-that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
I've learned-that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I've learned-that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.
I've learned-that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
I've learned-that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
I've learned-that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.
I've learned-that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings, and standing up for what you believe.
I've learned-that people will forget what you said, and people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.